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lucky579 10-26-2010 01:18 PM

Worried about girl (hooker)
 
Where do I start..Sunday night I get off work earlier than normal, it's raining, i'm doing laundry and thought it would be nice to cuddle with a girl. I message a few craigslist ads, and get replies back fairly quick. Real people, we exchange text and they tell me it's too late to come over. Well good thing there are girls who will come over when ever.

I go to an escort site, and pick my favorite girl, send her a text and she comes over an hour later. She walks through the door, and is relieved to see me, she is smiling ear to ear, and introduced herself by her first real name. We go to my room, she gives me a massage, one thing leads to another and she's having an orgasm. I felt bad for her, she was so genuine, I stopped after she climaxed and took an interest in her.

We talked all night, she told me all her crazy stories, and she's only been doing it for 2 months, and told me that she doesn't enjoy doing it. She's 19, I'm 23. I offered her to stay at my house until she found a job that she enjoys.

So I drive her back to her hotel room in the morning, she packs all her stuff up, and we moved it to my place. I've never met a girl as fun as her and that just goes with the flow, and who won't stop smiling! This was up there with one of the best days of my life. We went to lunch, she paid, and I had to come home and get ready for work.

She came with me to work, and went to the mall across the street while I was at work. I sent her a text 45 minutes before I got off to let her know, no response. I called her when I got out to my car, no answer. This was at 9pm.

I come home eat, and fall asleep, I wake up around 1am and send her a text "hey really hope your okay" No response. I wouldn't say that to any other girl, but she told me just last week she was kidnapped and everything she owned was stolen and she was left with just a tshirt on out in the middle of nowhere..I was a bit concerned.

I finally fall back asleep and call her this afternoon, no answer. A few hours later I have my friend call her, no answer.

I don't know what to do, all her stuff is at my place, I want to help her, but if she doesn't want help I'm perfectly fine with that. I have a real date on wednesday night, and switching gears is hard if I'm preoccupied with her in my mind.

advice?

Trachei 10-26-2010 01:21 PM

Stop picking up hookers?

Forever Domon 10-26-2010 01:25 PM

occupational hazards, but the reality is either she fell back into some sort of drug habit, and starting hooking again, or something did happen with her pimp and she really did get in some trouble (not meaning she's dead or anything, just that she isnt in contact with you).

At least she didnt start bringing johns back to your place.

RazorWind 10-26-2010 01:44 PM

So, had you met this girl prior to Sunday night?

Aside from the obvious "WTF are you thinking inviting a hooker to move in with you?" I'm not sure what to tell you to do besides wait. Did you give her a key to your place? How do you know she didn't just play you, and isn't planning on coming back later to rob you?

A couple of things come to my mind, though:

1. You have all of her stuff, and will be the last person to have seen her alive if she turns up dead somewhere.

2. If she's a hooker, there's probably a pimp somewhere. You never know how the kind of person who pimps out a 19 year old will react to finding out she's just quitting, and moving in with a john.

I think the best thing you can do is wait, and change the locks if you gave her a key, or can't account for ALL of your keys.

theNoid 10-26-2010 01:50 PM

I ... I ... I don't have any advice other than to throw her shit in the garbage and stop falling in love with prostitutes overnight. You come off as one extremely desperate, needy and creepy guy.

1. You had a prostitute come to your house.
2. Intercourse? Regardless she came, and you decided that was enough for you and time to cuddle up and chat about life?
3. At dawn, you move her into your house?
4. Later you take her to where you work.
5. You continually call her and creep on her to the max?
6. She disappears?

Something almost makes me think this thread is a cover for you actually doing something to this girl. In all honesty, you scared a prostitute away. I mean you literally scared someone who will do just about anything for money away by being a creeper.

All of this within a 24 hour period? Look, live your life how you want.. you have that right but from one man to another. "Get some self respect."

Toss her belongings and move on.

lucky579 10-26-2010 01:52 PM

She doesn't have a key

met her sunday night for the first time.

While talking yesterday, the talk of facebook came up and she told me to add her. I looked her up today and found her older sister on her page, college graduate and saw pictures of her family. She comes from a good home!

She said she doesn't have a pimp, and told me stories about how many people before have tried to pimp her out.

Forever Domon 10-26-2010 01:57 PM

[QUOTE=lucky579;24559926]She doesn't have a key

met her sunday night for the first time.

While talking yesterday, the talk of facebook came up and she told me to add her. I looked her up today and found her older sister on her page, college graduate and saw pictures of her family. She comes from a good home!

She said she doesn't have a pimp, and told me stories about how many people before have tried to pimp her out.[/QUOTE]
so you think she's a prostitute with a heart of gold?

Most normal "good family" people dont just jump right into prostitution for fun. Theres some backstory you're missing man.

lucky579 10-26-2010 02:07 PM

TheNoid:

You seem very bitter, and add things to the story that never happened. I was in danger of losing my job 2 weeks ago. I didn't know how I was going to get by, my life flashed before my eyes, I would have no place to live, no food, etc. Seeing other people in similar situations now, I have a different perspective.

I didn't take her to my work, I go to work, she comes along because she wanted to go shopping across the street at the mall.

I never creeped on her, I called her when I got off work to let her know...I called her this morning to see wtf is going on.

She was so happy that I offered that she could move in, and was so relieved.

She's a human being like the rest of us, she has feelings, emotions, and should be treated with respect, if anything I'll put all her shit in the closet, and if she comes to get it, it will be here.

coalesce 10-26-2010 02:20 PM

You're a creep cuz you're a young fellow who does this on the regular.

brunobell 10-26-2010 02:22 PM

[QUOTE=lucky579;24559983]TheNoid:

You seem very bitter, and add things to the story that never happened. I was in danger of losing my job 2 weeks ago. I didn't know how I was going to get by, my life flashed before my eyes, I would have no place to live, no food, etc. Seeing other people in similar situations now, I have a different perspective.

I didn't take her to my work, I go to work, she comes along because she wanted to go shopping across the street at the mall.

I never creeped on her, I called her when I got off work to let her know...I called her this morning to see wtf is going on.

She was so happy that I offered that she could move in, and was so relieved.

She's a human being like the rest of us, she has feelings, emotions, and should be treated with respect, if anything I'll put all her shit in the closet, and if she comes to get it, it will be here.[/QUOTE]

I feel like this is just a case of "I'll only accept your advice if it's the one I'm looking for". I think it's incredibly creepy to ask a hooker to move in with you after knowing her for maybe 8 hours. Toss that shit.

edit: I'm sitting here thinking, is this story even real?

matt00926 10-26-2010 02:28 PM

Throw her crap in a closet and let her contact you on her own. Maybe she went out of town for an event she's supposed to work. She's a hooker, most of them sleep from morning until about 3PM and then are out 'til early morning the next day, rinse and repeat.

Either way, this is a terrible idea. I've interviewed/hung around hookers and pimps before for about six months in Atlantic City, both male and female. I would stay clear unless you want all your stuff jacked and your outlook on life negatively skewed.

Someone that deserves to be respected is someone who actually respects themselves. Hookers, by definition, do not.

lucky579 10-26-2010 02:51 PM

[QUOTE=domonbaylespam;24559937]so you think she's a prostitute with a heart of gold?

Most normal "good family" people dont just jump right into prostitution for fun. Theres some backstory you're missing man.[/QUOTE]

her ex bf was addicted to heroin. She worked 4 jobs to support his habit, and she would stay home if he got sick. She worked in the mall where pretty girls looking for jobs were a dime a dozen. Obviously she was a co-dependant and had been addicted to drugs before. She went to rehab 2 years ago and has been clean since. She missed too many days of work and she lost her jobs. Her resume wasn't too impressive and she didn't want to put any burden on her parents as they are going through an unstable financial time. She didn't know what to do, so she started doing this.


I myself am/was an addict, from doing coke everyday and drinking on the weekends, to binge drinking everyday, to sniffing oxycontin, to smoking oxycontin, then the rush of calling up an escort and wondering if your going to get stabbed/robbed or arrested, then doing this with drugs and all the effects produced a very nice high, and distraction from reality. And since they don't make oxycontin in the states any more, I don't know where to get it, and the closest feeling to oxy, is falling in love with someone. And she is/was a girl who I thought wanted the same thing. I have been clean from oxy since may 1st, and this was the first escort I had seen in 6 months.

I think I would know the signs to look for if she was addicted to anything...

isugoat 10-26-2010 03:38 PM

love—and i use that term as loosely as you clearly do—as a substitute for drugs? not exactly healthy, but if you're looking for a project woman to keep your mind off the drugs, you're certainly looking in the right places with craigslist and escort services. you're coming here from a far different place than most of us, as evidenced by the fact that you don't see anything messed up about any of the behavior you or she exhibited in this entire scenario combined with that addiction backstory of yours. as with most addicts, you'll only hear what you want to hear until you come to the same conclusion yourself a lot later.
you want some inspiration and something to tell you you're right? go watch Pretty Woman. but that's not how it ends up for your "love". if she's lucky enough to break out of hooking before she gets murdered, kills herself, or ODs she still won't be living some fairytale life with lucky579, her prince charming.
a pessimistic view for sure, but pessimism and realism are all too often the same thing.

Gibonius 10-26-2010 03:42 PM

[QUOTE=lucky579;24560150]her ex bf was addicted to heroin. She worked 4 jobs to support his habit, and she would stay home if he got sick. She worked in the mall where pretty girls looking for jobs were a dime a dozen. Obviously she was a co-dependant and had been addicted to drugs before. She went to rehab 2 years ago and has been clean since. She missed too many days of work and she lost her jobs. Her resume wasn't too impressive and she didn't want to put any burden on her parents as they are going through an unstable financial time. She didn't know what to do, so she started doing this.


I myself am/was an addict, from doing coke everyday and drinking on the weekends, to binge drinking everyday, to sniffing oxycontin, to smoking oxycontin, then the rush of calling up an escort and wondering if your going to get stabbed/robbed or arrested, then doing this with drugs and all the effects produced a very nice high, and distraction from reality. And since they don't make oxycontin in the states any more, I don't know where to get it, and the closest feeling to oxy, is falling in love with someone. And she is/was a girl who I thought wanted the same thing. I have been clean from oxy since may 1st, and this was the first escort I had seen in 6 months.

I think I would know the signs to look for if she was addicted to anything...[/QUOTE]

You met her once, after you [b]paid her to have sex with you[/b]. You don't know jack shit about this girl (other than she's a hooker) and you don't owe her anything. Beyond that, you're clearly just playing into another facet of your addiction problems by trying to save this girl. You could have found someone at the bus stop, but no, you found a HOOKER. Get out, stay away from hookers, and let her deal with her own problems. It is not healthy for you to indulge this fantasy of saving her and having some magical fairy tale romance.

Put her shit in a storage unit if she doesn't show up by Friday. If she does show up, tell her to move her shit out and find somewhere else to stay.

catch22 10-26-2010 04:10 PM

[QUOTE=lucky579;24560150]her ex bf was addicted to heroin. She worked 4 jobs to support his habit, and she would stay home if he got sick. She worked in the mall where pretty girls looking for jobs were a dime a dozen. Obviously she was a co-dependant and had been addicted to drugs before. She went to rehab 2 years ago and has been clean since. She missed too many days of work and she lost her jobs. Her resume wasn't too impressive and she didn't want to put any burden on her parents as they are going through an unstable financial time. She didn't know what to do, so she started doing this.


I myself am/was an addict, from doing coke everyday and drinking on the weekends, to binge drinking everyday, to sniffing oxycontin, to smoking oxycontin, then the rush of calling up an escort and wondering if your going to get stabbed/robbed or arrested, then doing this with drugs and all the effects produced a very nice high, and distraction from reality. And since they don't make oxycontin in the states any more, I don't know where to get it, and the closest feeling to oxy, is falling in love with someone. And she is/was a girl who I thought wanted the same thing. I have been clean from oxy since may 1st, and this was the first escort I had seen in 6 months.

I think I would know the signs to look for if she was addicted to anything...[/QUOTE]


So you know all of this is true? You know for sure that anything shes told you is 100% true? Dude, come on, like everyone else in this thread has been saying: you have only known her for less than a day. No one can absolutely know some stranger they met off of the internet in a day. Besides the fact that people are good at lying, how do you know that shes only been doing this for two months, or that she doesn't have a pimp, or that her home life was good? If her home life was so good, then why is she out whoring herself? It's things like that that you have to ask yourself about people before fully opening up to them and bringing them into your personal life, which they can and probably will rob while you blindly trust them.

The simple answer to this is that if you have to take drugs to feel better about yourself, or substitute false "love" for said drugs, and consistently hire escorts and hookers, you have problems of your own that you need to get worked out before you can just bring someone into your life, especially a hooker you don't know, no matter what you say to anyone here.


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