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Dating problems v. Race

So, I'm 18, and my senior prom is coming up. Recently I asked a girl I know to it, she is black, I'm white. I thought nothing of it, I've known her for a few years, always thought she kinda liked me. Well, I told my parents last night, and my mom went off the deep end on the whole thing. According to her I'm turning my back on my family and my race, she doesn't want prom pictures because the rest of my family would be ashamed, she claims that I'll be braded a traitor to my race forever. I didn't see this coming at all, both parents are very tolerant (at least I thought so) to black people as well as other races. Their words: "I'm ok with you having black friends, but dating is where I draw the line". I'm happy with my decision but I'm still torn up about my family. Are they right about this? I live in central Ohio if that makes a difference here.
Old 03-29-2009, 01:15 PM  
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Are they right in that your family would be ashamed? Who knows, probably so considering her reaction.

Are they right in that they should be ashamed? Absolutely not!

There is nothing, I repeat, nothing wrong with dating someone of a different race. The stuff that your mom said is like textbook white supremacist stuff, talking about being a "race traitor" and whatnot.

Stick with your decision and your family needs to get over it.
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Old 03-29-2009, 01:20 PM adm01 is offline  
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Sounds like your mom's a biggot asshole. She's wrong.
Old 03-29-2009, 01:35 PM Artesial is offline  
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it's none of her fucking business. it's your prom and your date, so take who you like.

man, i never understood the "race traitor" idea. 90% or more of whites procreate with other whites anyway, so it's not like we're a dying breed. and it's not like you're even dating her, right? you're just taking her to the prom. so stay on the righteous side and go with her regardless of what your mother thinks. she is very fucking wrong and needs to see that you're not going to conform to her stupid ideals. if your family would be ashamed, then you should make them aware that they make you ashamed!
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Old 03-29-2009, 01:52 PM Phil Taylor is offline  
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Sucks your parents are racist, but at least its never gotten to you. You're a man and you can make your own decisions regarding who you want to date. Do what you know is right.
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Old 03-29-2009, 02:04 PM WILLIAM NOT is offline  
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Thanks for the insight guys, I really appreciate it.
Old 03-29-2009, 02:14 PM  
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Sorry to hear about that situation. But I wouldn't call your parents tolerant if they're flipping out over you taking a black girl to prom.

I don't want to say completely turn back on your parents, because they are your parents, no mater how bigoted they are, but I think you might want to stand your ground. Ask why, and be ready for any stupid answer that they give regarding the issue.

I say take this girl to prom, and if your parents don't want pictures of it - so be it. Maybe they'll grow out of their prejudice someday. Hell, it's not like you're gonna go fuck and have a bunch of kids that will be "traitors to the race" afterward.
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Sorry to hear about that situation. But I wouldn't call your parents tolerant if they're flipping out over you taking a black girl to prom.

I don't want to say completely turn back on your parents, because they are your parents, no mater how bigoted they are, but I think you might want to stand your ground. Ask why, and be ready for any stupid answer that they give regarding the issue.

I say take this girl to prom, and if your parents don't want pictures of it - so be it. Maybe they'll grow out of their prejudice someday. Hell, it's not like you're gonna go fuck and have a bunch of kids that will be "traitors to the race" afterward.

and if they do fuck and have kids afterwards? either way it shouldn't be an issue
Old 03-29-2009, 03:29 PM Pokeman Master is offline  
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Sounds like your mom is a racist.

It's prom. Do whatever the hell you want with whoever the hell you want. Nobody cares.
Years from now nobody will even remember prom. Don't waste your time taking pictures, prom isn't even that fun anyways.
I guess now all the kiddies have to take pictures of everything they do so they can upload them to facebook and myspace.

And parents wonder why their kids come up to them and say "Fuck You, Mom."
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Sucks your parents are racist, but at least its never gotten to you. You're a man and you can make your own decisions regarding who you want to date. Do what you know is right.

This.
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Old 03-29-2009, 03:44 PM usemytoes is offline  
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This thread makes me wonder what my prom date's parents (who were white) thought when they first met me.

She's racist. I dunno about the rest of your family because she probably hasn't told them of your decision, but I think you should go with whoever you want. If she doesn't wanna get pictures, that's just less money spent and regrets for her in the future.
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Old 03-29-2009, 03:44 PM DeejayPancake is offline  
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I dont consider myself racist, but I would never marry/have kids with anyone other than a white woman. I do however have the asian fever. Now that I think about it, I cant actually articulate why that is exactly, I guess primarily because I dont want mixed babies. Might be a cultural thing to.
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Old 03-29-2009, 03:51 PM Figment is offline  
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I don't see how his mom is a racist since OP didn't mention her expressing hatred or intolerance to another race.

I would advice listening to your mom.. since she's your mom and she's about to pay for your college etc.
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A guy I used to wrestle with dated a black girl for about two years in high school and college. He took her to Thanksgiving one year and overheard his uncle making remarkably bigoted comments about her. He broke his uncle's nose after they had a few words about it.

However "tolerant" your parents may want to think they are, the fact is that they're racist/scared/whatever, and they can pretend to like blacks because they don't have to really talk to them too much as long as they're friends. But anyone who uses the term "race traitor" or any variant thereof, despite how they want to appear, is a bigoted human being.

Don't listen to your parents. If they really want to dissociate from you because of this, then fuck them, you're going off to college soon anyway. Or moving out. Or whatever. Take her, have a good night, date her or anything you want to do, then get the fuck out of your house as soon as possible.
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