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Silly date experience (a tradgic comedy)

just curious how some of you thought this turned out, and then you can make fun at me at the end or just teal deer it (Honestly I wouldn't blame you for clicking the back button now, this stuff is lame)

Date was with a german girl. Cute blond, thin, tall, glasses, smiles lots, details that aren';t that important. We met at a concert, I asked her out, she said sure but was going out of town for a week and mentioned some country artist that she thought was playing.

She emailed me a week later saying she was having problems finding where it was at. No info, the guy wasn't that well known, and they said it was at a Regent theater, which is also the name of a movie company. Very hard to find any info, but i eventually did, emailed her back with the details. She emailed me back with tix.

btw we're emailing because she didn't have a phone.

the concert is downtown, los angeles. She said her friend was doing something else downtown and would drop her off early, I said we'd do dinner then and visit the surrounding area. I know downtown pretty well and knew this good resturaunt walking distance At dinner we both had wine, she ordered a salad. We joked about how dull that could be so I said I'd order something tasty and we'd share, which we did.

at dinner she was talking about how she'd been in LA for 2 months and really hadn't checked out anything, just the normal tourist traps. We had a lot of time left, she had real shoes on, so I said I'd give her the nighttime tour of LA. We walked around, I showed her the screenprint shop, where all those screenprintings you see around on telephone boxes and construction walkways are made. They were doing an interview inside so we kinda snuck in then snuck out. We walked around some more, i showed her the late-night art galleries, the hipster hangout coffee shops, a pirate themed bar (had some dirnks of course) then we checked out some of the night lighting and archetecture, such as the library, some of the older buildings, pershing square. We walked past a subway en which she asked about. SHe said she's never been on the subway so I took her on a subway ride. She wasn't hanging onto anything so i offered to let her stand next to me. She laughed when she almost fell as the train started moving.

Yes, for a date i took a girl on a subway. I told her that this may be the lamest thing I've ever done, she was estatic about it. She again said that she hadn't done anything like this since she came to the US and we talked about how she's only met two other guys in the US and both did the lamest things, took her to stuffy bars and talked about themselves, then complemented me on being the first normal, honest, and fun person she's met here.

concert went ok, 4 bands played I met one of the band members briefly shook hands, had him meet my date, etc. afterwards she called her friend and said concert had run late (it had) and that I would take her home (i had offered, if the concert were to run late).

So we got in my car, which she liked. It's an old sports car, kinda in rough shape, but fun. She was staying at a beach house, so I offered to take her on a night cruise of the road along the beach rather than the direct route, which she accepted, she even gave me some turning suggestions to get on the desolate roads with nice views of the ocean. We zipped along and she was enjoying it.

We get to her place and she asks me to walk with her on the beach for a bit. We walk, it's cold so we're holding each other close, but she doesn't seem to be as into it as the previous few hours have led on.

So here's where I mess up. Because of the sudden change in her attitude (not bad, just...idk, not close) I wrap up the night, walk her back to her house, get a nice long hug out of it, then head home thinking she'd want to go out again and was probably just tired (at this point it was around 330am).

She sends me an email that i get when i get home, saying she had a good time, 1st real person she's met, best time she's had since she got her, etc. She also says that she's leaving in 3 days, and that she has plans with friends/relatives that she can't break so no time to spend with me even though she really wants too. That's my screw-up. I had no idea she was going to be gone that fast, otherwise I would have put some more effort into doing something with her sooner.

A few days later she sends me an email from Germany saying that she messed up, should have spent more time with me, etc. and that she was planning to come back again in the fall and how she wants me to show her around more or that if I were to come to Germany (to visit a friend i have there) that i should spend a few days with her.

So, to wrap this up, basically it was a great, fun tragedy that didn't work out due to bad timing and lack of effort on my part. What's worse is I had real interest in this girl. Going to be kicking my ass in the back of my mind for a bit longer on this one.

We still keep in touch via email about once every week and a half, this was about 2 months ago that she was in the US.

OK, critique, laugh, applaud, scoff, or better yet ignore this overly long semi-blog post that I didn't want on my blog but still wanted to type out.
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Old 04-09-2009, 12:27 AM flshdncr is offline  
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You seem to have had fun, stayed cool, gentlemen-like and showed a nice girl some good time.
Way to go.

You're doing good. The important thing for me from this story is that the best of times are often with completely random strangers.
You'll meet someone else just as good, promise, it happens all the time.

Keep in touch with her, just in case she decides to drop by,
but try not to dwell too much on the long-distance comunication (don't get obsessed over her), and keep doing what you're doing.
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That sounds like a lot of fun actually. Being able to be spontaneous is something I wish I was better at. It's not like you knew she'd be gone in three days so there's nothing to beat yourself up about. You showed her a great time and she wants to see you again someday, so just keep in friendly contact once in a while like you've been doing and continue your life as you normally would.
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It sounds like you did pretty much everything right. Sucks she had to leave, though.

I recently took a girl on a date where we ended up wandering around downtown late at night, looking for this coffee shop based on bad directions. It was fun, although it was also cold that night, and my face was all chapped the next day.
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Good job. It sounds like everything worked out well and you played your cards right. Just go with the flow, things could definitely work out in the future.
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It's good to read a positive date story in the BC, good job man, sounds like one hell of a date. Hope you two get together again when she comes back.
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I wouldn't say you screwed up, unless you your only goal was to get laid. Sounds like you had a good time and made a friend, nothing wrong with that. If you ever see her again you can probably pursue it further.
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i'm not the type of person that chases tail, so I'm not too bummed about not getting any action. I'm also not the type to obsess or linger...if I never see this chick again I'll be satisfied that I had fun that one night. Was just sharing a story, thanks for reading.
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Probably could have saved it if you proved how cool you were by racing soccer moms through the "twisties". Girls love that machismo shit.
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what's your question?
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Probably could have saved it if you proved how cool you were by racing soccer moms through the "twisties". Girls love that machismo shit.

lol drop it dude, I have.
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Richard Linklater is the Director.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112471/
Before Sunrise. 1995

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0381681/
Before Sunset
2004

9 years later.

Watch the first one (or both), and enjoy. You'll get a real kick out of it, if that's the kinda guy that you are.

Sounds like you had a fresh and new experience.
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I've seen both, and liked both. Will need to get watch again though it's been a few years since I saw them.

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Richard Linklater is the Director.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112471/
Before Sunrise. 1995

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0381681/
Before Sunset
2004

9 years later.

Watch the first one (or both), and enjoy. You'll get a real kick out of it, if that's the kinda guy that you are.

Sounds like you had a fresh and new experience.
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Ok, so I'll provide some cultural perspective on this. I just studied in Germany for a semester and since we were a group of a bunch of Americans, of course they explained dating ect. to us. Basically, dating in Germany is MUCH slower than in the States. Going out with a group of mutual friends is very common for a "first date". Beyond that it typically won't get physical for a while. Of course these aren't rules, but more of general observations. Exceptions exist obviously, but hookups at bars are much more infrequent. She probably appreciated you not trying to get her into the sack on the first night.

They showed us this music video to describe dating in Germany. It is from a popular group there named Wir Sind Helden. The groups lead singer, a girl, wrote the song to a French friend of her's that was thrown off by German guys. I posted the translated lyrics below also for you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZV7u-kGDYM

Aurélie

Aurélie’s accent is very charming without question
Even when she keeps still she is noticed as being wonderful
She does not have to be sparing with her attraction
Because her hair is sea and wheat
Even bald everyone will adore her

But Aurélie never gets it
Every evening she asks herself
When will someone fall in love with me

Aurélie that way it will never work
You are expecting much to much
The Germans flirt very subtle

Aurélie the men like you a lot here
Look on the street everyone looks at you
But you don’t notice anything because they don’t whistle
And if you do they flee
You have to know less is more here

Oh Aurélie in Germany love needs time
Here you are ready for the first steps after days
For the next weeks you talk
You size each other up the most thoroughly
And after that you meet anywhere twosome

Aurélie that way it will never work…

Aurélie it’s just not that simple
Here different words are of different importance
All the boys lying at your feet
Want to kiss these also the cute ones
But you don’t notice it
If he’s talking about soccer at the same time

Oh Aurélie you say I shall explain it to you
How on earth Germans are reproducing
If all the flowers and the bees do nothing but smirking in Berlin
And don’t give a damn about questions of pollination

Aurélie that way it will never work…
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what's your question?

His question is should he have slept with her after walking her home or not.

The answer is it doesnt matter, he handled himself like a man and did what was appropriate for the situation. Nothing wrong with that.
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