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Hah, nice stereotyping there of the engineering girls. I study engineering and we have two of the most attractive girls in our year level, in our course. You might be right for the most part, but don't go making assumptions when it comes to someone's personal scenario.

Xerus, I suggest you don't give her so much room to say 'no'. You're better off saying something like, "I'm not too confident about this Finance test coming up. I reckon we should have a small study session sometime this weekend", and then waiting to see how she responds. Maybe even just ask her how she is going with her study for it before asking. Also, you're question doesn't really ask her if she wants to study with YOU, so you might confuse her a bit. Regardless, if she says no, which is a possibility, just play it off. So she doesn't want to study, no big deal, talk about something else.

You. Are a genius. You really seem to have it together, thanks for this reply!
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Old 02-28-2008, 06:40 PM Xerus is offline  
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While that may work at your school, at my school that would blow up in my face. We are extremely small. Everyone knows everyone.
It doesn't matter. If you ask a girl out usually she'll be flattered at worst. It takes balls to do that, and unless you act like some sort of creep monster by not taking no for an answer or by stalking her for weeks, then it won't hurt your chances with other girls even if this girl rejects you. Don't use the size of your school as an excuse to not ask her out.
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Basically, I want the study date to establish a connection with her, other than just someone she met in class. Stacking the odds in my favor, I hope at least
Come on, you're better than that. If you're an awesome guy she'll want to establish a connection with you! As a man you have the power to make the first move with the girl of your choosing, and that's great. The odds are in your favor when you want them to be.
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Second one is horrid.

Point is, as others said before, you went wrong because you acted like a pussy, besides your current situation isn't THAT bad. So she didn't want to be alone with you.Why would she do that? You probably creeped the fuck out of her. Your posts in this thread creep me out. I think you are brushing off nearly every piece of advice in this thread. You need to sit down and really think about what we are telling you. It seems like you are just thinking, "okay, I need confidence, and I need to stop putting her pussy on a pedestal. LETS GO". It isn't as easy as that. You need to figure out WHY you aren't confident, and you need to figure out WHY you are putting way too much thought into these girls.

You WONT get a girl at this rate because you care so much about the destination that you completely fuck up the journey. Don't set relationship goals and then try to plan a route to get there, this isn't backpacking in Taiwan it is called, 'getting to know a girl'. Just be comfortable with yourself, and don't expect anything. Also, as another pointer that I don't think anyone has picked up on, you sound as if you hesitate way too much. Hesitation = eventual failure. If you walk into a room, lock eyes with a girl, and then hesitate and go elsewhere, you'll most likely get a red cross by your name. In such a situation, you'd either briefly smile and go to where you were headed (and talk to her later), or you'd just B-line it for her straight away without stunting your stride.

Don't think so much about the first line either. Just walk up to a girl, and say whatever the hell pops into your head. If all you can force out is a 'hi', then don't worry. They'll ALWAYS say 'hi' back (unless you hit on deaf chicks) and by then you should be able to quickly grab another straw and throw a question at her, or point out something interesting.


To sorta follow on from Totti's lead, here are a couple of 'ice breakers' I used in the past week:

Me: *taps arm* "Hey"
Her: "uh, Hi"
Me: "Sorry, but you look really familiar, I just had to talk to you."
Her: "Actually, yeah, you look really familiar too. Where do I know you from?"
*banter*
*I get her number*
Profit

Me: "Hey, I've never seen you around here before. I'm [name]"
Her: "Oh hi, I'm [name], I'm friends with [another name]".
*conversation*
*I get her number*
Profit

The reason I hit profit on those two is because they were genuine and natural. Small situational things like those can easily turn into something more, as long as you don't think about it too much. The art is getting lost in the moment, and not thinking what will happen in the future, be it a year or a second. Commit your mind to the setting you exist in right now, instead of thinking, "okay, after I say this, she will most likely reply with this, what do I say?!", just listen and clear your mind such that points of conversation will freely flow into your mind.

Also, just for a laugh, another scenario from last Friday,

*Am at a concert dancing in a crowd and two girls come up next to me*
Me: "Watchout there is a shoe down there"
*They look down, then look back up at me *
*I laugh and then continue dancing with the people next to me*

Point is that I failed hardcore, but I shrugged it off because I didn't worry at all. I fail often, but I hardly ever see a girl again after I've failed on them, and if I do, I just smile, say hi, and keep walking. If there is anything awkward about that, it is their fault.

I know I know, I was with a few friends at the time and they didn't want to go up to this group of girls. I find that some girls in clubs will flat out reject you if you approach them in a really serious manner. So I decided to sound like a moron
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Totti, what really happened is you were relaxed and didn't give a shit. That is why it works. Once I find a girl now that I want to meet, I don't even think twice anymore, I just go up to them.
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Breaking News:

The girl I was talking about earlier is apparently in a relationship, or so Facebook says. I have a friend that is in her sorority checking to make sure, but what should I do?
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Jesus christ man move on and find another one.
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The girl I was talking about earlier is apparently in a relationship, or so Facebook says. I have a friend that is in her sorority checking to make sure, but what should I do?


Edit: Whoops forum, I would just move on man. This is becoming really creepy really quickly.
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The girl I was talking about earlier is apparently in a relationship, or so Facebook says. I have a friend that is in her sorority checking to make sure, but what should I do?
It doesn't matter what Facebook says. You should forget you ever saw her Facebook page, and definitely don't allude to it if you talk to this girl again. Just keep being an awesome guy and if she's into you then make it happen. If not then just drop it. Sending in a spy to find out whether or not she's in a relationship does nothing for you and it could backfire on you, so don't ever do that in the future.
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The girl I was talking about earlier is apparently in a relationship, or so Facebook says. I have a friend that is in her sorority checking to make sure, but what should I do?

Probably time to move on dude. Try not talking about school all the time either and just have a normal fun conversation.
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