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Holy fucking dejavu. Went through the same exact shit , this summer , down to the fucked up history , even down to the whole mother thing.

Its hard now, but you'll get it over it. Like they say time heals all wounds. Yes its in your best interested to cease all contact with her but its easier said in done. Its one thing to give advice but to actually be in the persons shoes and do it is another. It took me a bit to come to terms with it, just how shit works, just means that it was something serious or atleast seemed like it. If it was nothing, then well there would be no thread and you would have told her to go fuck herself 3 ways from Sunday.

Theres also sometimes the chase is sweeter than the catch. And you always want what you cant have. Its pure human nature, but its something everyone should go through.

In my situation , after I wised up, I told the bitch off, down the point of what, why, and how. It obviosly didnt work out with the other dude, we became good friends but I was already over it. I started to see someone else, suprisingly one of her friends. And thats when shit hit the fan, she was the one on the chase and I wanted nothing else because I found better. The one things I believe in is karma, especially as far as feelings go. Someone fucks you on your honest feelings, they will get theirs , I can almost gaurantee it.
As in my situation we no longer friends because we'll I put her in her place and she never wants to speak to me again. And a month after the apparent falling out, I was blocked on facebook and myspace because my guess is she got tired of seeing how happy I was with someone else even better her friend and she basically saw what she was missing but it was too late, oh and she got fat so thats also really cool.

My advice to you is, considering its the same exact fucking situation and we seem to be similiar people in the way we handle it. If you want it to be done with completely but want closure, meet up with her in person, call her out on her and tell her how you feel, that should cease all contact but its mean so you have to like to play your asshole card. Or you can play the I dont care, she doesent care game, she obviously does care a little bit , atleast enough to reply to public shit. Although like I said in my situation nothing felt better than summing her up and dropping her like a bad habit, karma will do the rest.
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Old 01-30-2008, 02:15 PM arkadyzv is offline  
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Living well is the best revenge. Obviously she's not completely happy with this guy if she needed you in the side. Start banging a girl hotter than her and be happy doing it if you want to bring her down.
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Fuck that bitch man..damn that pissed me off to read that. I am sorry as hell that guys have to go through this type of . Myself included. Honestly, the way she texted you and acted like it was no big deal would have really sent me to the next level of anger. The only way to keep girls like this around (if you really want to do that to yourself) is have zero emotion around them. This is obviously hard if your heart is into the person. It is an acquired skill really.
He got emotionally invested too early. Who knows if there was ever any intimacy on a physical level? Next time maybe he'll learn to relax and enjoy the moment with the next girl, and think about exclusivity later down the road after they've had sex and genuinely enjoy each other's company.

And this girl, like any other attractive girl, has to put up with constant from suitors who don't get the hint--it's not like they have it easy either.
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Old 01-30-2008, 03:37 PM EesGood is offline  
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I didnt read any replies.

I dont think you should have gone after her in the first place.
Seems like kinda a sleazeball to string you along.

Also, I recently got off the "no dating since XXX" thing too, and I was SO DAMN CAREFUL not to make a mistake....it is surprising you didnt do the same and guard yourself against something like this.

Why would you take a chance on a chick that is juggling two guys AND YOU KNOW ABOUT IT.
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I didnt read any replies.

I dont think you should have gone after her in the first place.
Seems like kinda a sleazeball to string you along.

Also, I recently got off the "no dating since XXX" thing too, and I was SO DAMN CAREFUL not to make a mistake....it is surprising you didnt do the same and guard yourself against something like this.

Why would you take a chance on a chick that is juggling two guys AND YOU KNOW ABOUT IT.

by the time i found out i had fallen for her

i did flip out when i found out though and ended it briefly, i didnt take it completely in stride

also, yeah its more than kinda sleezeball imo to tell someone they own your heart and then pull this shit inside of a week

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She is just leaving her options open. She isn't sure what she wants. It is at your expense.
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So how about I plop down in my computer chair, open up genmay, hit this thread and before I even begin reading I get a call from my SO about an hour and a half earlier than usual. I knew exactly what it was about. Needless to say, I'm single. (My gf just had a guy named Nate try to get with her, not sure if that's connected)
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I don't know what it is but right now everyone I know is having relationship issues. It might be due to seasonal depression or something I dunno.
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I don't know what it is but right now everyone I know is having relationship issues. It might be due to seasonal depression or something I dunno.

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Why would you take a chance on a chick that is juggling two guys AND YOU KNOW ABOUT IT.
Guess what, attractive girls are usually dating more than one guy at a time. Granted, she's not obligated to tell you about it, and I'd rather a girl not get me involved, but there's nothing wrong with a girl (or guy) seeing more than one person at a time as long as they aren't pledging to be exclusive. Sorry if I am reading you wrong.
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So how about I plop down in my computer chair, open up genmay, hit this thread and before I even begin reading I get a call from my SO about an hour and a half earlier than usual. I knew exactly what it was about. Needless to say, I'm single. (My gf just had a guy named Nate try to get with her, not sure if that's connected)

How long was the relationship rocky?
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Guess what, attractive girls are usually dating more than one guy at a time. Granted, she's not obligated to tell you about it, and I'd rather a girl not get me involved, but there's nothing wrong with a girl (or guy) seeing more than one person at a time as long as they aren't pledging to be exclusive. Sorry if I am reading you wrong.

I guess the word "seeing" is different than "dating"

but either way, I would never even attempt to "see" a girl while shes "seeing" another guy.
shouldnt have to be someone else to "win" her to you or something

this whole topic reeks of polygamy, which is just about where american society is headed.
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It's your call, but more often than not you'll find that otherwise desirable girls are seeing more than one guy. If you don't like it, you're limiting your choices but it's up to you. Anyways, the reason is simple: more guys/girls = more choice. I don't see anything morally wrong about it, again, as long as nobody is going against their word. I also disagree that it's akin to polygamy (at least the sociological definition), because there is a difference between having multiple partners in a committed vs. uncommitted relationship.
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How long was the relationship rocky?

I wouldn't necessarily call it rocky, but I've been thinking about it the past week, her a few days. But I think both of us prefered each other as friends so we talked and by the end it was clear that the breakup was essentially mutual.

I opted to still be friends, simply on the basis that she may be as fucked up as me, except I have other people helping me out. She's been molested and I'm the only person she's been able to tell. (Wasn't really telling, I kind of pieced it together through various statements and untactfully asked a vague question and responded with: Whew, for a while there you might have been, I dunno, molested or something.) I plan on getting her in touch with some professional help.
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