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unknown00
 
contact ex long after breakup?

long after = 6 months+ with no communication at all

not contacting them to get back together or get closure or anything, but just to say hi and see how they are doing. they should have obviously played a significant role in your life at one time or another, and whether the relationship ended badly or good, they still meant something to you at that time. does anyone just like randomly think of ex and decide to say hi after not talking to them for awhile?
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Old 08-02-2010, 07:09 AM unknown00 is offline  
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No way would I ever get back in touch with an ex. We broke up for a reason. She didn't like me or I didn't like her and that's the end of that.
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I wouldn't if that much time has passed already. You both gave it your best, but it didn't work out. Leave it at that.
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Humans are funny. Just because you broke up doesnt mean the other person ceases to exist as a human being. If you got along well with them, what reason would there be to not talk to them in a purely platonic manner.

I realize the world doesnt work like that, but its somewhat nonsensical why it doesnt.
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6 months is nothing, i will call or email an ex from 5/6 years ago because they popped into my head for some reason. nothing wrong with it, just keep in mind they might not want to hear from you so take it all with a grain of salt.
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just keep in mind they might not want to hear from you so take it all with a grain of salt.
agreed, that's why i think an email would be best. it's the least invasive in comparison with a phone call or text
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the gain never outweighs the potential pitfalls
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the gain never outweighs the potential pitfalls
best gain? potential friendship

worst pitfall? well considering you 2 aren't even talking anymore...she will probably just ignore you and continue to not talk to you?
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Could they possibly be upset by you contacting them? Maybe they were more upset about the breakup than you were and this contact will bring it all back. Could they misinterpret your intentions? Just some things to think about.
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Could they possibly be upset by you contacting them? Maybe they were more upset about the breakup than you were and this contact will bring it all back. Could they misinterpret your intentions? Just some things to think about.
upset? if i got an upsetting email i would just ignore and delete it, think most pple would too

misinterpret intentions? i mean how can you misinterpret a "hi how you doing hope all is well"?

either way, good advice thanks
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upset? if i got an upsetting email i would just ignore and delete it, think most pple would too

misinterpret intentions? i mean how can you misinterpret a "hi how you doing hope all is well"?

either way, good advice thanks

You've actually met a woman? right?
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upset? if i got an upsetting email i would just ignore and delete it, think most pple would too

misinterpret intentions? i mean how can you misinterpret a "hi how you doing hope all is well"?

either way, good advice thanks



Pretty sure most people wouldn't think that an ex is contacting them "just to say hi" out of the blue.
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She'd have a team of women working out all possible interpretations of the most simplest of mesages you send her.
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She'd have a team of women working out all possible interpretations of the most simplest of mesages you send her.
that actually made me Laugh Out Loud LOL. but seriously no
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It really depends on how "well" the breakup went. Wishing someone the best in life (as I believe you should do no matter what/why things went South) needs to stay in the "wishing" section, meaning not actively trying to find out. Out of sight-Out of mind is a saying for a reason. If you contact your ex, you are inviting a situation taht can harm you way more than it can help you. Feeling can begin to kindle again, and that's something that needs to be treaded around lightly in my book.
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