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move on or pursue?

Rewind back two years ago. I was with this girl that i was head over heels in love with. I got friend zoned (she had a boyfriend). I miraculously got out of that friend zone and was "together" with her (never officially dating) for about a year and a half. We ended things when she went to school.

Now I ended up at the same school, we met the first week (unintentionally) and got it going again (she has a boyfriend) and wants to keep it going. I want to move on, I have already been talking to another girl, but not chasing her as I should've. A month into it, i decided to end things with the first girl so I can go on and pursue the new girl. The new girl says to a mutual friend "I really wish I can like him (referring to me)...he's such a nice guy" (why i'm considering moving on). She also comes to me and says verbatim "you're like my best friend..." the SAME exact day that I ended things with girl #1 (biggest reason why i'm considering moving on). Done deal or start the pursuit? The reason why i haven't been really flirty with her is because I had girl #1 on me the whole time.

Just want opinions/advice. Thanks in advance.
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Also, the reasons why I would consider pursuing her is that what she said about me was pretty recent...perhaps it's not too late? She's still really flirty with me - but i could be letting my emotions take over.
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"I really wish I can like him (referring to me)...he's such a nice guy" and "you're like my best friend..."
Move on. She will only cause you headaches and frustration if you try and pursue her but I only speak out of personal experience.
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You're saying the first girl still has the boyfriend while you're with her too?
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You're saying the first girl still has the boyfriend while you're with her too?
yes, im confused about this. Also, when you picked up talking to her again (girl #1), whats that been like? Is she flirty with you/does she act interested? Are you still talking to her or seeing her regularly?
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yes, im confused about this. Also, when you picked up talking to her again (girl #1), whats that been like? Is she flirty with you/does she act interested? Are you still talking to her or seeing her regularly?

Yes, i was together with her both times when she had boyfriends. She was flirty and definitely was interested, but i decided to cut the ties. I didn't want to go through things with her again and was interested in the other girl.
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If she has a boyfriend then I'm not sure there is anything to pursue. Just go find someone else. Being head over heels for a girl in a committed relationship is not a good thing. It rarely ends well for you.
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I am not sure why you'd want to pursue a girl who twice jerked around her steady boyfriend and you at the same time.
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Seems to be some sort of confusion.

The girl that I was with twice (who had a boyfriend, both times) is girl #1. I had ended things with girl #2 recently, and have moved on.

Girl #2 is who I wish to pursue. She is the one who said "i really wish I can like him" and "you're my best friend".
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Sounds to me like neither one is interested. If a girl is interested, it will be painfully obvious. Girls don't say "I wish I could like him" or "He's like my best friend" about guys they are interested in being physical with.
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Seems to be some sort of confusion.

The girl that I was with twice (who had a boyfriend, both times) is girl #1. I had ended things with girl #2 recently, and have moved on.

Girl #2 is who I wish to pursue. She is the one who said "i really wish I can like him" and "you're my best friend".
So, the first girl with the BF is a done deal and now you are going after a different girl who seems to have you in the friend zone?
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Keep girls 1 and 2 around for friends, because they likely have friends who could be girl #3. But don't let that stop you from finding girl #3 outside of their circles.

But for fucks sake, don't keep after 1 and 2, because that's a waste of time, especially when drama will kick in.
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