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Old 04-26-2010, 09:17 PM Dominion is offline  
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I used them as a social experiment for the last ~8 months - hit them pretty hard from jan-march or so and off and on for the other times.

I found a free three month thing for eharmony. I'd say fairly positive results from there. My personality lends to ~15 new matches a day - I get to be pretty picky - probably 4 a week girls that contact me first - I contact basically all the others that aren't fatties/obvious weird/desperate to put a ring on it's and could do a date with a quality girl with 30min/day worth of effort twice to three times a week.

okcupid was the other one I tried. I've done the math - I'm somewhere around 70% response rate of sending out a message and getting a decent one back from non-fatties. I never really blasted out a ton of messages - look at girls in my area and would send about 20 messages a month, tops, few conversations going, first dates, etc.

I've had positive results from both - no super weird girls or anything, plenty of eh, no chemistry first or second dates and a pretty good conversion rate to short term dating/sleeping with girls from both sites.

I functionally treated the whole process like a sales funnel - plenty of girls all at various stages of the sale process from initial talk to a few messages to first meetup and so on. If one dropped out I didn't care because there was always another.

Of all the girls that I met only ONE was substantially different weight than I expected (not an outright fatty but not skinny.)

the simple steps for success - Be outgoing in your messages, be aloof, challenge or even criticize her. do NOT compliment her or be nice initially. thats all you have to do.
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what do you do when you meet her for the first time and she turns out to be way bigger than you expected based on her profile?

suck it up and deal with it.

she'll feel like a million bucks to be out with a guy who is normal/average thickness. definitely no touching, and when she writes back to tell you how awesome the date was - be kind in response but don't allow for any sort of continuation of conversation. unless of course if you're into fat chicks.


usually - I'll try to google the person before i meet them in person. i was chatting one chick on okcupid and she looked "ok". then i saw her facebook and the "DO NOT WANT" flashed through my head. whoa. like... WHOA.

People on these dating sites will put their best pictures of them for everyone to see, even if it doesn't show their true 'colors' so to speak.  Similar to how b0b3 only posted pics of herself on pornmay when she was slimmer. She was definitely much thicker when i met her in person.  

bottom line - if you put yourself in the situation of possibly meeting a chick who could be large, and you're not looking for it, come up with a good excuse as to why you're unavailable. if they email you after with some far fetched reason as to why you didn't show or express any interest, be nice in your response.
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my mate, oli, uses dating websites. he's 21, a law student, and has no problem pulling broads on nights out, but he prefers to date older girls, usually grad students. it works pretty well for him, it's like a more fingers in more pies scenario. he let me read over his emails for kicks, he usually intros with something like "i love kung fu." or whatever it is she says she's into. even if you aren't into it, just say you are and read some articles about it.

half the battle is research.

i say all this, but then again, my mate is just trying to get laid more. we're all essentially sex addicts. we're probably the decline of dating websites.
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what do you do when you meet her for the first time and she turns out to be way bigger than you expected based on her profile?

Smile, say hello, have a nice quite meal or drinks, say your goodnight and imply that the differences in your current life and lifegoals mean that you do not see a future and wish her all the best. She will be happy because she got food and you were polite, you are happy because you do not have to see her again.

After a while, you get the hang of picking the fatties from the non-fatties by the kind of pictures they have, other pictures exchanged, talking on the phone, all that kind of stuff. Every now and again you get the bonus of someone who has lost weight and looks better then the pictures.
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If you're not looking for a fat girl or someone with kids, spend the money on a good website (eharmony, match.com, etc)

If you do the cheap/free sites, your standards should be lowered accordingly.

Obesity rate seems to be the same on free as well as pay sites.

I had been a member of Eharmony,Match.com and Chemistry.com on/off for years ...75%+ of the pictures I saw were not up to date....it is one thing to be 5-15lbs over weight....but being 100+ lbs over weight and not mentioning.

I was going to join a local video dating site....it has women who are too busy to "look" for a guy...I asked if they are too busy to look for a guy....how willl they have tme for a relationship...no response from the interviewer.

To anyone who meet a person from a dating site...what was the person's response when asked why was their posted picture so old and why was their over weight not mentioned?
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To anyone who meet a person from a dating site...what was the person's response when asked why was their posted picture so old and why was their over weight not mentioned?

it never happened to me - 60+ girls over the period of a few months and only ONE was anything near heavier than I expected - girls aren't as deceitful as you would necessarily expect them to be - watch out for the obvious myspace angles and you'll be fine. I think this is really a non issue.

You're a lot more likely to get a super clingy/creeper girl before you are going to unexpectedly meet a bunch of fatties.
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it never happened to me - 60+ girls over the period of a few months and only ONE was anything near heavier than I expected - girls aren't as deceitful as you would necessarily expect them to be - watch out for the obvious myspace angles and you'll be fine. I think this is really a non issue.

You're a lot more likely to get a super clingy/creeper girl before you are going to unexpectedly meet a bunch of fatties.

I think you're just becoming on top of recognizing those deceiving photos. There's SO many that just put on myspace angles and they do look appealing. But theres always something I can tell from one or two of them that can be the hint of hiding fat. Either way, I avoid myspace angles just because I associate the wrong type with someone who would do something that retarded anyways.
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Online dating bites... that is, unless, you like guy-harvesting high-maintenence chicks, overweight chicks, or straight up headcases. All of my successful relationships have always been in person, or maybe I just appear to be a massive creep online (very likely!)

Yes - for the most part that can be considered true. BUT. it contains the greatest thing I've ever come into contact with: Being able to look at everything on the buffet - and then being picky as you fucking want. A little chubby? No thanks. Vegetarian/Vegan? I don't wanna put up with that shit. Bad hygiene? Nope. Can't write a complete sentence to save their life? Nawww.
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Ok, so about a year ago I made an account, while I was trying to get over this one relationship. I got nothing out of it. It felt like a waste of time, and money. So I stopped paying for it.

About a month ago I started back up. I updated my profile a bit, and added some better pictures. Since I haven't been on there for awhile there must of been a ton of new girls on there; and that there was.

So I'm decided to email a couple of them. Got no response back, it was going as smooth as the last time I was on here. Then this girl emails me, we talk for weeks, we meet, I'm not impressed. It was a swing and miss. During the time talking to her, I was still emailing other girls, I'm getting no responses back, none.

Now, my sister has a friend who is on there too. She told my sister that she gets TONS of emails from guys everyday. She doesn't have time to read them all, so what she does is just deletes half of them. Kind of rude if you ask me. A simple reply if your interested or not would be nice.

Ok, so from my stand point if a girl emails you, you might have a chance. If you email her most likely she won't even read it. So no matter what, sending an email is most likely pointless. Now, I'm not emailing them saying "Hey you're hot, what's your number?" haha no. I tried different techniques on emailing them. At first I made some comments on their profile, or ask them a question. Since that didn't seem to work I thought more a direct approach, but nothing too creepy. That didn't work either.

So I'm stumped, I had one girl talking to me, I wasn't interested. I email others, and get nothing.

Has anyone had any luck on these things? If so, is there a learning curve? lol

Thanks.

I can honostly say that I have signed up on dating sites and have looked around and never logged back in. Also, from experience I know that many ads are fake to get more guys on there paying. I am just saying, they have to get started somehow and this is how they do it. Best of luck to you in the dating field. I find meeting people from mutual friends or going out is the best way to meet others.
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I think meeting people in person works much better. It is way more difficult and frustrating at times but I don't think online really works that well.
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I think meeting people in person works much better. It is way more difficult and frustrating at times but I don't think online really works that well.

The problem is some peoples personalities don't fall into the category of 'meeting people in person'. Imagine you live by these common examples, how do you purpose meeting someone like this in person?

-9 to 5 job consumes most of your time (but not all, of course)
-You're an introvert who sometime enjoys alone time
-You hate crowds
-You don't have a lot of friends, but you do have a few REALLY good friends
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