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I think I played it TOO cool

There's this girl I'm in class with. She just broke up with her bf of 7 years and we have been talking, normally a few times a day ever since. She kept hinting that she wanted me to take her to see the fireworks on the 4th but I didn't ask her. Finally Thursday she asked me to take her. We went. As soon as I picked her up she was smiling. We went, found a spot for the fireworks, and talked for a few hours till they started. Afterward, we drove to the lake and went and sat out on the floating dock. I got the overwhelming sense that she wanted me to make a move, but I didn't. We stayed out on the dock till about midnight, then I took her home.

We haven't really talked since. I'm not stressing it really, just second guessing my choice to play it cool I guess, and wondering where I should go from here?
Old 07-06-2009, 01:37 PM loanshark214 is offline  
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ask her out again
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ask her out again

and this time make sure you make a move.
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honestly, that doesn't sound like playing it cool, that sounds like pussing out

not coming across as too interested is all well and good, but when it is time for moves to be made, you need to make moves
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She probably thought you were bored and uninterested. You should probably correct that line of thinking ASAP.
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How about this time you tell her that you want to take her out instead of asking her out. That should set the tone just fine to start with.
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You still have time, but it won't be long before she's made up her mind. First impressions often times set the tone, and yours was definitely ... "We should be friends, talk all the time, unless of course you go out of your way to ask me out and lead me on... in which I'll still do nothing and be a friend." I guarantee you thats exactly what ran through her mind as she went to sleep.

This is how the friendzone begins, once she's made up her mind about you she'll quickly move onto the next male who enters her life. Act now.
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You still have time, but it won't be long before she's made up her mind. First impressions often times set the tone, and yours was definitely ... "We should be friends, talk all the time, unless of course you go out of your way to ask me out and lead me on... in which I'll still do nothing and be a friend." I guarantee you thats exactly what ran through her mind as she went to sleep.

This is how the friendzone begins, once she's made up her mind about you she'll quickly move onto the next male who enters her life. Act now.
Meh. Attitudes can change and so can feelings, and they do constantly. I wouldnt be worrying so much about the "friend zone" so much as i would be about his apparent anxiety of making a move on a girl whos clearly interested in him
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Well i asked her out for tomorrow. We'll see how it goes. It wasn't necessarily anxiety about making a move, it was more being cautious because she has stated in the past she wants to stay single awhile, not really date anyone, but that definitely wasn't the vibe given off Saturday.
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I always regret not listening to my gut and listening to my more rational brain. Sounds like you made the same mistake I always do (IE: listening to what a girl says and not what she does) but at least you'll get a chance to correct it.

You sound like a good guy. Good luck brother!
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^ya seriously, did this not cross your mind? unless you were just looking for a short-term fling or something, i'd be cautious
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honestly, that doesn't sound like playing it cool, that sounds like pussing out

not coming across as too interested is all well and good, but when it is time for moves to be made, you need to make moves

i was thinking the same thing
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