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You're parents are freaking out because you're 29 and have never dated. Thats pretty bizarre. House, career, thats all excuses if you ask me and your parents are doing what just about any parents would do when they think something is wrong with their child. They're desperate.

If you want them to leave you alone, start dating. Or ... do you simply prefer being alone the rest of your life?
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Old 01-17-2010, 10:16 PM theNoid is offline  
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you know what
his not being interested
for no other reason
than he just does not want to date right now
is perfectly understandable

i've been amazed
at the BC groupthink response on this one
for how often we always spout
"stand up for what you want man"
and
"be yourself. be confident in yourself. be proud of yourself."
it is surprising to me that we laid into this guy
for daring to say "you know what, i'm just not interested in dating"

he sure didn't ask us for our opinions on the topic
he asked us for advice on how to handle his parents
but the floodgates opened for us to flame him
about his dating preferences
and i'm a bit surprised by that

my thing is it's cool if that's what he prefers, but never dating at all and being 29 is a bit out there. My guess is he's not very attractive and shy, and my advice is for him to lower his standards and learn to have a basic conversation.

It's what he needs to hear....unless he's gay
Old 01-18-2010, 01:09 AM crumbaker is offline  
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Whats the problem with living a totally normal life without a significant other?
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Whats the problem with living a totally normal life without a significant other?

it's not normal or natural.
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I dont see the problem if one is contempt with his/her position in life.....
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I dont see the problem if one is contempt with his/her position in life.....

As I see it people in general are hard wired to want someone in their lives and that desire probably grows over time. If you've tried the whole thing and found you're not one of those people then that's one thing. If you're simply avoiding the whole thing out of fear, rather than actual indifference, then that's not really healthy long term.
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So I guess this has become one of those threads where we bicker about the OP's personal life and the OP never posts back.
Old 01-18-2010, 01:05 PM Frenetic is offline  
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Just use her to break-in your new bed. And when she and everyone else asks why you used her for sex - tell them that you already made it clear that you weren't interested in a long-term relationship.

edit - I'm not big on dating, either. I just prefer to hook-up because dating feels rather corny to me, and when you're dating you just never seem to be yourself because you're trying to impress the other gender. Just live your life and the right woman will come along when it's time.
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Just use her to break-in your new bed. And when she and everyone else asks why you used her for sex - tell them that you already made it clear that you weren't interested in a long-term relationship.

edit - I'm not big on dating, either. I just prefer to hook-up because dating feels rather corny to me, and when you're dating you just never seem to be yourself because you're trying to impress the other gender. Just live your life and the right woman will come along when it's time.

It's hard to tell what, or who, the right woman is without knowing what you want exactly from a relationshp and partner. Many of those aspects can only be learned by trial and error. People who wait around for oppurtunity rather than seeking it, more often than not end up settling due to the ticking of the clock, which more often than not ends in grief.

There's something to be said of experience.
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you know... he might be asexual if he simply has no desire to date or mess around.
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I dont see the problem if one is contempt with his/her position in life.....

You don't even think it's natural. Otherwise you'd be CONTENT.
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^^^^ Hahaha fail on me for using the wrong word. Nice spot.
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Get in on the action, you're missing out on what LIFE has to OFFER you!

It's all about seizing the day. No more excuses, go OUT and EXPERIENCE life.

Big deal. You have a house. You have a Job. All work and no Play makes Jack a dull boy.

You will look back when you are 35, 45, 60, 70 and say "what a dull and boring life I lived, I didn't every date around, I am now old and lonely and need viagra to get my dick up to masturbate"
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@ OP, your parents waited until you're 29 to help you out with dating? I would say its a little late at that point. The only way that you are going to be up to date with dating is if you went back in time to when you were in high school, and start dating. Everyone is already a mile ahead of you when it comes to that, because they have experience, and the game has changed.

My advice would be trial and error. Nobody is perfect and you have to start somewhere. You might creep out some women, but that is the point of making mistakes, is to learn from them.
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Just use her to break-in your new bed. And when she and everyone else asks why you used her for sex - tell them that you already made it clear that you weren't interested in a long-term relationship.

edit - I'm not big on dating, either. I just prefer to hook-up because dating feels rather corny to me, and when you're dating you just never seem to be yourself because you're trying to impress the other gender. Just live your life and the right woman will come along when it's time.

Did this with the last girl my mother set me up with. She worked as a manager at my mom's salon. Ended up just doing her every saturday for a few months, then cutting it off completely.


Everything went extremely well. No problems, no issues. Will do again.

You just need to be up front about it. I prefer, "This is the start of a very good friendship."
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