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It sounds like she just wants to keep you as a backup lover. I wouldn't wait around man...
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Old 01-04-2003, 09:04 PM Nox is offline  
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Old 01-05-2003, 11:31 AM TehSpaniardInQuestion is offline  
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Good move, flesh and blood is a lot better than indecisive text...
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Old 01-05-2003, 11:59 AM Tooon is offline  
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Even if it is a bit late. I think Nox got it right there. She wants you to be a backup, so why not make her one right? Good luck man.
Old 01-06-2003, 06:54 AM  
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Minor update:

Her and I talked a little last night. I told her how I felt she's just keeping me around incase things mess up. She said that's not it at all, and rather she's just making sure she wants to spend the rest of her life with me.. uhhuh, suuure....

She said (see if you understand this) that she rather would've done this now than when we're living together. To me, that means she wants to break up and stay broken up, perm. thing if you will. However I told her that, and she said it was a permanite thing, and she just wants to be sure she doesnt make the wrong choice.

I, honestly, want to believe her... we've been really close and shit, but it's hard to believe her anymore... I asked her through email when id be able to come down there to work this stuff out like she wanted, and she cant ever give an answer. Just makes stuff up to change topic/ignore topic.

Meh. Don't know what to do about it completly. I'd like to just kill the beast that we've had for the last two years and just start over again in real life, but who knows if I'll just get hurt again or not? I'll be getting really busy soon and her and I will talk only for a brief time on the weekends. Perhaps that will give me the info I need on whether to try and stay friends and work out a relationship past these stupid monitors, or if i just need to dump her completly and move on. Thanks for the advice guys.. helping out a bunch.
Old 01-06-2003, 10:09 AM Packhead is offline  
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..'course, I shouldn't say- I've got a gal (tho we live close) we have probs occasionally.. they suck, I really would like to dump her but its extremely hard, altho, right this moment I wouldn't want to dump her, maybe I don't, maybe I do... just, the arguments suck...I try to lean out of things, veer myself away for times arguments are happening, I hate them, greatly..

its hard when your getting pussy isn't it
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Old 01-07-2003, 04:28 AM Dark is offline  
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So let me get this straight. You're going to go back to the relationship where YOU are the bitch? It sounds like SHE calls the shots in this relationship, and it sound's like your the 'little' man she talks to, too feel better about herself when she's sad. Don't revolve your entire life around a WOMAN you hardly know! Please god, don't make that mistake. It'll fuck you in so many ways, it'll even make a man pregnant.

She already got 'bored' of you once. You can't just go ignoring her every time this happens, she'll aventually stop caring.

However, if this is some girl you want to keep around while you search for something better, well, that's a different story, AND my reccomendation.

My logic: Males are either doing two things. Accepting just about any pootang they get because they can't get anything better.

OR they're fighting off the pussy because they have way to much of it.

So, if you're not getting pussy, and want to keep her around untill you find something better - go for it. But if you aren't going to cheat on her, when it's doomed to fail in the first place..pfft, go to college where-ever you want and get that awesome sex. You know, the...guilt-free-oh-my-god-it-feels-so-good-and-i'll-never-see-you-again-after-tonite-unless-i-feel-like-it sex....


Never re-arrange your life for a woman....bleh.

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Old 01-07-2003, 05:55 AM iasdufaowiecjasdlc is offline  
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Meh. Don't know what to do about it completly. I'd like to just kill the beast that we've had for the last two years and just start over again in real life, but who knows if I'll just get hurt again or not? I'll be getting really busy soon and her and I will talk only for a brief time on the weekends. Perhaps that will give me the info I need on whether to try and stay friends and work out a relationship past these stupid monitors, or if i just need to dump her completly and move on. Thanks for the advice guys.. helping out a bunch. [/B]
HAHAHAH, "who know's if i'll just get hurt again or not?" Listen to yourself. Be a fucking man! That's life. Get out there! Part of your issues with this woman sounds like your reluctent to step up and take a leadership role in the relationship. Make her life revolve around YOU. Not vice versa. Tell her you MIGHT come visit her, if YOU find time for it. You'll start seeing results. However, I reccomend starting over - she sounds like a dumb bitch who's to self absorbed to consider your feelings.

Warning: Applying the technique I listed above (Making her life revolve around you) will apply psychological attraction techniques that will make her feel more attracted to you. Only apply if you want those results.

good luck with whatever you decide.
Old 01-07-2003, 06:02 AM iasdufaowiecjasdlc is offline  
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If she doesn't support you in your decisions about what you want to do then she isn't really thinking about you is she? The getting bored of you is sort of a bad sign...couldn't understand that you were just busy? I agree with ALiEnWoO pretty much Long distance relationships can't quite compare to close relationships - sort of figures - long distance != close....never noticed that b4... But yeah - I would say no - don't reform life for a person who gets "bored" if you are away for a week - commitment is sort of lacking there.
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Old 01-07-2003, 06:41 AM takplayer is offline  
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so basically she wants a relationship when she comes home for the summer, and doesnt want to be tied down at school so she can party. um fuck all that, its one way or another, if she cant handle a serious relationship tell her to have fun with her parties. you sound too mature for that type of relationship, and she'll end up hurting you in the end since it doesnt sound like she can make up her mind.
Old 01-07-2003, 08:09 AM SonDogg is offline  
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I more or less told her, Sunday night, that I'm not going to "bend my schedule" for her. If she's online when I am I'll say hi, but I'm not going to tailor myself to her anymore. um fuck all that, its one way or another. that's exactly how I feel about the entire thing. She just says "oh but I just want to be sure I know what I'm doing." Well, I've given her two months and she still knows jackshit.

I feel she should either:
a) stop being a bitch to me and talk this out with me and stay comitted to only me, or
b) leave me alone and go out and have her parties.

I don't want to be friends with her.. it's all or nothing, in my opinion, but she doesn't quite understand that or want that to happen. whenever I tell her that I'm not going to be talking to her as much she gets pretty depressed and gets sad that I'm not going to make time for her anymore.

Oh well. Life's a bitch, she'll deal with it. Like I told her the other night, she had no considerations for how I'd feel when she made her choices.. I'm not going to have any considerations for her when I make mine. Two way street, and she's not coming down her side, so I'm just going to have to leave her behind. I'm actually talk to two other girls right now. Not really sure if they're dating material, but they're fun to just hang with. Maybe something will develope there. sure I'll be better off in the long run.
Old 01-07-2003, 09:26 AM Packhead is offline  
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Update:

So, finally a few weeks later, I just told her to buzz off, and I'm not going to listen to her anymore.. Went and blocked email from her addresses in my email, and took her off my buddy list. I'm not planning to answer any phone calls from her, either...

I suppose the reasoning for this drastic move is that this ***** tried to get me to come pay for a college down there where she's going to, and then we were going to live in an apartment together and hopefully patch things up. Well, then I find out that she's planning (after already telling me this) to live at home herself for a year until her cousin turns 18, then they're going to get an apartment together, basically screwing me over. She never wanted to make a time to talk about it, so I told her she had a choice: get back together and work it out, or it's over. She refused to talk about it, so I'm going to give her the silent treatment. I've tried to do this before, but I've always re-added her or something to try and work it out... but I'm not going to let myself fall into her trap again.

Now to find things to do to keep her off my mind.... hopefully by my 18th bday (two months away) she'll be off it more or less completly, and I'll have a new girl...

Thanks for the help guys.
Old 01-20-2003, 08:10 PM Packhead is offline  
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good job dude, just hold your current resolved as long as possible and you'll do good.
Old 01-20-2003, 08:38 PM RedTalon19 is offline  
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good job dude, just hold your current resolved as long as possible and you'll do good.
what he said. don't waver chief. steady as she goes. and for the love of billy d, don't see her. that will bring everything back, no matter how much shes hurt u. avoid her like the plauge.
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Old 01-20-2003, 09:09 PM razer1 is offline  
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lol.

I told her, before I completly broke it off, that if she ever felt that she could stop being so, not in context, stupid and could actually comit to having a truthful and honest conversation, that she could e-mail me and I'd give her a call when I had time. I told her until she can actually talk to me like a civil human being, and not just say "Uhm, I dunno" (read: give me straight answers), then I don't want to really say much of anything to her. I doubt I'll hear from her again, but eh... there's gotta be better people out there. :b
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