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Thats like saying any of us who are in relationships should never go to a genmay meet.
Old 09-30-2010, 04:03 PM Forever Domon is offline  
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Telling her you're concerned is no different than asking your partner to get tested before fucking - if anything they should react positively because you want a healthy relationship.

If she got mad when you called her out for this (in a calm and serious manner - not loud and stupid) then thats almost dead proof she had intentions of being with those guys. There's NO reason she should be mad that you're concerned.
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Thats like saying any of us who are in relationships should never go to a genmay meet.

it's like saying <pick attractive female genmayer> shouldn't go camping with 10 other genmayers and leave her sig other at home.
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They're talking about the issue. He raised his concern, she's considering it. That's healthy, and reflective of some level of strength in their relationship.

No doubt it's a little fucked up that she'd be going off to meet a bunch of internet dudes, but your "zomg alpha as fuck!!!11111oneoneonee" advise isn't really helping anything here. He's not just laying back and taking it, if she ends up deciding to go, then we'll have something else to talk about. Saying he's "dependent" on the relationship just because he's not willing to throw it away over something that hasn't even happened yet is just stupid.

The only discussion I would have is saying that camping with a bunch of dudes from the Internet whom you have never met in real life crosses the line. She wants to go to a car meet? Sure. They all have a group meet for lunch to see everyone in real life? Sure.

She wants to go camping, maybe even overnight (lol discussion) where there really isn't a lot of entertainment present, no. I would tell her she's in a relationship with me, not Internet dudes.

If she can't see how that crosses the line then it's her loss. I'm a guy. I know guys. Guys like to have sex with girls, even so called nice guys, cause they "love" her.

If she wants to act single then she should be single, not playing both sides. But that's just my opinion. She may not go at all, which would be great. I'm just stating that it shouldn't be acceptable at all.
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There is absolutely NOTHING you (or anyone) can do that will ever stop her (or anyone) from cheating on you. If she wants to cheat on your during her camping trip she will. If she wants to cheat on you as you're reading this, or while you're running errands ... there is nothing you can do.

However, outside of that there is a bottom line here that I do believe is being crossed. Quite honestly, females that want to go out of town w/o their boyfriends have issues. Red flags exist for a reason and if my wife ever wanted to 'go out of town' with 'other men'. Um.. Red Flag. Thankfully I didn't marry that type of female, I got one that has dinner ready on the table when I get home, raises our son while I'm at work, plays Xbox with me and would prefer I go most everywhere with her, even if grocery shopping.

There are better women out there, ones not worth all the drama and trouble.

I wouldn't be happy with the OPs gf and it sounds like he isn't either. You know what to do.
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There is absolutely NOTHING you (or anyone) can do that will ever stop her (or anyone) from cheating on you. If she wants to cheat on your during her camping trip she will. If she wants to cheat on you as you're reading this, or while you're running errands ... there is nothing you can do.

The sooner you realize that you have zero control, the sooner you learn what trust is all about. This issue you have is causing a rift in an already torn relationship. You dont trust her, plain and simple and this thread is proof of that. However the problem isn't her really, its your insecurity and that is a major character flaw that if not repaired will haunt you within every relationship you have the rest of your life.

Insecurity is a disease, it pollutes the mind of its host and sours attraction from their partner quicker than anything else. A possessive, insecure boyfriend is always going scare away every female they encounter, no if ands or but's.
Yep. It is by far the BIGGEST turn off for me. Nothin like a jealous gf who clings like her world will end if u leave her.

The difference is letting her know it's unacceptable and that I would leave her ass over it. Nothin insecure about that. I'm all about letting a girl live her life, but I'm not gonna be made a fool of like that idiot on jersey shore who thinks he's "dating" angelina because he buys her watches and gifts.
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Hey guys...they've talked, she's going.

You can talk all you want, you can place your bets, you can speculate. But now it's the waiting game. If he updates with bad news, then so be it. Until then, chill the eff out.
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There is absolutely NOTHING you (or anyone) can do that will ever stop her (or anyone) from cheating on you. If she wants to cheat on your during her camping trip she will. If she wants to cheat on you as you're reading this, or while you're running errands ... there is nothing you can do.

However, outside of that there is a bottom line here that I do believe is being crossed. Quite honestly, females that want to go out of town w/o their boyfriends have issues. Red flags exist for a reason and if my wife ever wanted to 'go out of town' with 'other men'. Um.. Red Flag. Thankfully I didn't marry that type of female, I got one that has dinner ready on the table when I get home, raises our son while I'm at work, plays Xbox with me and would prefer I go most everywhere with her, even if grocery shopping.

There are better women out there, ones not worth all the drama and trouble.

I wouldn't be happy with the OPs gf and it sounds like he isn't either. You know what to do.
so basically you want a house slave, not a person with their own personality and hobbies.
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so basically you want a house slave, not a person with their own personality and hobbies.

I think he's coming from the right place - if you respect a person you wont put them or yourself into a situation they would otherwise have strong reason to suggest issues.

you wouldn't spend the night in the same bed as a good female friend and you would expect your sig other to do similar things, it's courtesy or mutual respect, you don't actively do things to make them uncomfortable. yes, you have to trust your partner but by putting themselves in questionable situations all the time are just going to stir the issues more.
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so basically you want a house slave, not a person with their own personality and hobbies.

I think that's a little severe. It's not unreasonable to want your woman to not go out camping with a bunch of men that you don't know. Noid is just saying his wife happens to stay at home, doesn't mean she's a drone or that's what he wants her to be.
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I think he's coming from the right place - if you respect a person you wont put them or yourself into a situation they would otherwise have strong reason to suggest issues.

you wouldn't spend the night in the same bed as a good female friend and you would expect your sig other to do similar things, it's courtesy or mutual respect, you don't actively do things to make them uncomfortable. yes, you have to trust your partner but by putting themselves in questionable situations all the time are just going to stir the issues more.
no, you're right, i agree.

The things i abstain out of respect are all 1 on 1 stuff though. Like I wouldnt feel comfortable doing something with another woman with just me and her. But if it was me, and three other women who were friends, id be ok with that.
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A good point to mention is, maybe the OP should look into camping with her. Maybe she is looking to have some outdoors fun. No reason the OP couldn't hit up some friends and take her out to do the same thing. If she talkin about this stuff the OP should take notice
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cant argue with that.
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Yep. It is by far the BIGGEST turn off for me. Nothin like a jealous gf who clings like her world will end if u leave her.

The difference is letting her know it's unacceptable and that I would leave her ass over it. Nothin insecure about that. I'm all about letting a girl live her life, but I'm not gonna be made a fool of like that idiot on jersey shore who thinks he's "dating" angelina because he buys her watches and gifts.

While you're right, you should really take the alpha/beta male shit back to the pick up artist forum where you got it from.
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Thats , if its her guy friends thats one thing, random dudes from a car forum? No way, she is totally disrespecting your feelings. A meetup is one thing but an overnight away trip with a bunch of strange guys is over the line if you ask me. If your relationship is already rocky I think you can assume this wont end well.
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