The end of "Don't ask, don't tell" in the U.S. military..

[augusttremulous]

Originally Posted by domonbaylespam

I certainly wasnt flattered. It just made me wonder "do i come off as gay?"

That's because if you had been flattered, someone or yourself might have thought you were gay, omg noes!

As long as it's done politely, any time you get hit on it's a compliment- that person thinks you're attractive and worth their time. Being flattered is not the same as being interested.

I think a big problem too, is that girl on girl is considered good homosexuality, while boy on boy is bad homosexuality.

[bingstudent]

Originally Posted by domonbaylespam

I certainly wasnt flattered. It just made me wonder "do i come off as gay?"

maybe if you lost about 20 pounds.

ZING

[bingstudent]

Originally Posted by augusttremulous

I think a big problem too, is that girl on girl is considered good homosexuality, while boy on boy is bad homosexuality.

Not to mention the way only cute / thin / pretty / lipstick lesbians are considered "hot" while many real world lesbians are considered ugly dykes.

[Forever Domon]

Originally Posted by augusttremulous

That's because if you had been flattered, someone or yourself might have thought you were gay, omg noes!

As long as it's done politely, any time you get hit on it's a compliment- that person thinks you're attractive and worth their time. Being flattered is not the same as being interested.

I think a big problem too, is that girl on girl is considered good homosexuality, while boy on boy is bad homosexuality.

the whole "two is better than one" logic? With the guy not realizing of course that he will never be 3.


edit: that time was a 30something year old man when i was 18 (and probably looked 16 though), in retrospect it really wasnt appropriate. Something was up with that year, i got hit on like 6 times by dudes, then never again since.

[bingstudent]

you were probably a hot teen but grew ugly as you aged.

[Forever Domon]

Originally Posted by bingstudent

you were probably a hot teen but grew ugly as you aged.

why thanks bingstudent!

[bingstudent]

in all seriousness ... fresh faced teens in the 16-19ish range is a heavily preyed upon group by a lot of gay men, I'm thinking it has a lot to do with the attraction straight men seem to have towards women in that age range as well.

[Coqui]

Originally Posted by domonbaylespam

They wouldnt. The ones that are already in, and making the sacrifice to have to hide their personal lives from everyone arent really the concern.

Itd be those who previously didnt join due to DADT that will now that are scaring people i think.

I love how everyone assumes homosexuals will turn the military into Sodom and Gomorrah

[Forever Domon]

Originally Posted by bingstudent

in all seriousness ... fresh faced teens in the 16-19ish range is a heavily preyed upon group by a lot of gay men, I'm thinking it has a lot to do with the attraction straight men seem to have towards women in that age range as well.

im not attracted to 16-19 year old girls as a straight male :/ They look like little kids to me. Hell, most women under 22 do nowadays.

[Coqui]

Originally Posted by RuHo

Well, true. Though, it's the perks that make every job worthwhile

(on a sidenote, has anyone here that's straight, actually ever been hit on by someone of the same gender?)

If I were gay, I'd be batting 1.000

I've had about 14 guys I knew hit on me. Doesn't affect me one bit, nor did it affect my friendship with them

[SemperFly]

Originally Posted by augusttremulous

yes, and I was flattered but not interested.

tell us the story

and feel free to tell us what would have happened if you had been interested

in great detail

[bingstudent]

Originally Posted by domonbaylespam

im not attracted to 16-19 year old girls as a straight male :/ They look like little kids to me. Hell, most women under 22 do nowadays.

I don't see it either but there is definitely a teen / school girl thing that a lot of straight guys go for.

[SemperFly]

Originally Posted by Coqui

If I were gay, I'd be batting 1.000

+ YouTube Video

[joemama]

Originally Posted by augusttremulous

That's because if you had been flattered, someone or yourself might have thought you were gay, omg noes!

As long as it's done politely, any time you get hit on it's a compliment- that person thinks you're attractive and worth their time. Being flattered is not the same as being interested.

I think a big problem too, is that girl on girl is considered good homosexuality, while boy on boy is bad homosexuality.

Dyke on dyke is just as much a turn-off to me as 2 gay guys. Now lipstick lesbians on the other hand..

[bingstudent]

Originally Posted by joemama

Dyke on dyke is just as much a turn-off to me as 2 gay guys. Now lipstick lesbians on the other hand..

exactly the shit I was talking about just a few posts above.